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Storms and Strangers

April 11, 2011

Storms make the oak grow deeper roots. ~ George Herbert


I was not online much after posting about Joseph’s death. You can imagine my surprise when I saw all the comments from people that I’ve never met; people that never had the privilege of knowing my nephew. To say the outpouring of love and support  was overwhelming is an understatement. I shared each and every one of them with my sister.
Beyond that, I received many emails and cards.
Lynn from Latte with Linky sent me an exquisite Vintage Handkerchief Coffee Sleeve. She sells these at her etsy shop.
Latte With Linky

Melissa of Cottage Charm sent stunning and fragrant roses.


I  ordered some things from Bianca of Just Be Designs etsy shop and she in turn, went to my blog and read about our loss. When my order arrived it was accompanied by a lovely card and two additional necklaces — gifts for my sister and me. They were custom made and have an image of Joseph as a little boy on one side and the last photograph taken of him on the reverse side. I will wear it often in remembrance of my nephew and also the kindness of a stranger.

Young Joseph

Adult Joseph

Deena, from Seasons of My Mind counted-cross-stitched me a pillow. It features Buster’s and Scout’s names. How sweet is this?


Today, I received a box from Victoria of Confessions of a New Old Home Owner that was filled with a beautifully detailed mug and floral necklace as well as soap, lip balm, and a charming pin cushion she created herself. Victoria has her own brick and mortar and online shops.

Victoria's Whimsy

All of these sweet gestures touched my heart and gave me strength. As I type this letter I am filled with gratitude for your kindness, prayers and friendship.

My sister wrote a note to The Fairfield House Blog readers and asked that I post it.

Anna's Note
Reminder: The Fairfield House 2011 Post Card Exchange is still in process.

16 Comments leave one →
  1. April 11, 2011 8:57 pm

    It isn’t just ‘out there’… the internet. Isn’t it amazing how its more like a real spider web, connecting, catching, entangling… beautiful.

    So grateful that so many thought of you Deborah. How are you doing, healing?

  2. April 11, 2011 9:00 pm

    I’m so glad your friends surrounded you with happy, uplifting thoughts and prayers when you were burdened with loss. You are loved, Deborah.

  3. April 11, 2011 9:06 pm

    And I’d like to thank you for the gift of a giant lump in my throat. 😛

  4. April 11, 2011 9:47 pm

    I am glad that you found comfort from strangers. It is nice to know you mean enough to someone for them to take the time to make you feel better. I hope that each day gets better for you and your family. Lots of hugs coming your way!

  5. April 11, 2011 9:52 pm

    I’m so glad you have so many friends to help get you past this difficult time in your life. Although nothing can compare to your loss it’s nice to know you can have so many mementos to remember Joseph buy.

    Hope you have a great week,

  6. April 11, 2011 10:52 pm

    Oh Deborah, what a sweet young boy. So greatly missed, I can tell. Sorry I haven’t been by to read this. Prayers to you and your family. The kindness of others is so amazing, it brought tears to my eyes seeing all the beautiful gestures! That necklace is amazing!


  7. April 11, 2011 11:09 pm

    I love all the connections that are made through blogging! We are truely blessed to have the ability to create friendships with others whom we might have otherwise never met. I’m so glad that you had so many friends reach out to you and your family in your time of sorrow.

  8. April 12, 2011 5:55 am

    The blog world is full of caring, sensitive and giving people. I only hope in time the pain will subside. You will always carry him in your hearts. And even now, as I type this, I know there are very few words one can say to make anyone feel better. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  9. melissa permalink
    April 12, 2011 10:09 am

    There are some really kind beautiful people in the world aren’t there? Glad to have you back.


  10. April 12, 2011 5:03 pm

    We all will die someday, that we know. Yet it goes against nature to bury your own child. A child should bury their own parents first. My siblings and I did that back in 2000.

    I read Deborah’s post on Joseph, but could not comment at the time. My sibling, my brother, had just died also from a cancer. My sister, who had buried her own 13 year-old son many years before, was by our brother’s side.

    Through her experience, I learned there is no such thing as a belated sympathy note. The pain is very real.

    Through Deborah’s posted photo of a clock, I know only time, and lots of time is needed. Time seems to stand still. Nobody understands, where is the whole world? Don’t they know time has stopped? It feels like insanity, a wound you can’t see that passes through the highest threshold of pain yet to be measured.

    Each of us, we die once. The pain from death is not from our own passing.

    There still will never be a belated sympathy note. My thoughts today are with Deborah & her sister.

  11. April 12, 2011 8:05 pm

    Sometimes just knowing how many people out there are thinking about you and hoping that you are healing is enough to help you get through the day. -V

  12. April 12, 2011 8:28 pm

    Hi Deborah,
    This community can be so loving and supportive…like having dozens of caring pen pals. I am so sorry for your loss, but so delighted that you and your family are being supported through it. May God bathe you all in His peace, and comfort your souls as only He can.

    I came by to let you know, as a fave customer, about my blog giveaway. I think you will love the stuff, and I hope you’ll come check it out. You can find it here:

    May your week be filled with gentle blessings,

  13. April 13, 2011 11:52 am


    I am continuously amazed by the friendships I have established through blogging. It has definitely reminded me that there are good people in the world . . . people who really care even though I’ve never “met” them.

    I’m sorry for your losses – and I think of you often, praying that you are surrounded by peace and comfort. Keep looking up.


  14. April 15, 2011 12:09 pm

    It was truly eye opening to me that last year after my mom passed it was the kindness of people that I had never met in person that kept me going.

    How warm is the love of the kindness of strangers.

  15. April 16, 2011 3:57 pm

    What a beautiful outpouring of love. I don’t have your address or I would send you some warm weather and love.

    I just had a conversation with a friend that I hadn’t seen since HS graduation. She asked if the “friends” that I made online were true friends. Maybe I should send her here:)

  16. April 21, 2011 11:55 am

    I’m so sorry to hear about your nephew. It’ll take time to heal but knowing that Joseph is in a special place helps. My prayers are with you and his family.

    Btw, thanks for stopping by and leaving a thoughtful comment about Mr. Linky. For a change I heard something positive about them so I thank you for that.

    You take care.

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